It was a painful, protracted breakup that ignited this soul searching journey. We were together for years, but from the very beginning, we made several mistakes. We fell deeply in love, but amidst the excitement of the early months, we overlooked warning signs that were gradually emerging. It wasn't about one person being bad but rather early misalignments that were not addressed on time: things like how we communicated, envisioned our social life or simply interpreted each other’s values.
Cultural differences played a role too. I craved calm, deep conversations, while he expressed himself more intensely, often through heated words that would sting my oversensitive soul. My focus was on building a secure and ambitious future, while he lived in the moment, sometimes at the expense of long term stability. Our social interactions would be a frequent source of friction too. I thrived on connecting with others, while he would interpret my friendliness as disloyalty or neglect towards him.
While we both deeply cared for each other, our expressions of love were too often mismatched. His passionate nature, although initially so attractive, over time started feeling overpowering, while he perceived me as emotionally distant. We could have travelled the world together, but our daily lives were marked by misinterpretation. We possessed the raw materials for a dream life – mutual admiration, flexibility and a love for adventure. Yet, our relationship was crumbling under the weight of everyday misunderstandings. Neither of us was inherently wrong; we were simply reflecting our own traumas and coping mechanisms way too perfectly. We were both carrying baggage, reacting on autopilot.
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Sadly, we lacked the tools to transform these early challenges into opportunities for growth. We fought, we reconciled, but without addressing the root causes, the underlying issues remained and we slowly drifted apart. The once exhilarating connection was replaced by a painful mix of loneliness and hurt.
We were trapped in a destructive cycle, desperately clinging to the belief that love conquers all and hoping that time could heal our wounds. We even attempted a temporary separation, believing that distance might help reset our emotions. Unfortunately, when we reunited, to our naive surprise, the underlying issues remained unresolved. Every reconciliation was a temporary bandage, the same wounds reopening with each new fight. I was torn between the idealism of unconditional love and the harsh reality of repeating the same cycles.
Seeking a breakthrough, we finally turned to therapy. But traditional couple's counselling simply felt like reliving the same painful arguments. It felt like wandering in the dark, consumed by the pain of the moment rather than rebuilding a new vision and foundation for the future. In those difficult times, it was too natural for us to focus on the negative, losing sight of the broader picture.
The uncertainty, the sleepless nights, the constant questioning – it was a relentless torment my body couldn’t take any longer. We were just constantly rehashing the past without finding solutions; I realised there was no universal answer someone was going to give me. Exhausted and disillusioned, the inevitable breakup followed.
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Time has softened the edges of that once tempestuous love, slowly transforming it into something new. Our bond evolved into a friendly soul connection beyond our painful love experience; a testament to the resilience of the human heart despite bearing all the pain. It took time to understand the beauty of this new chapter, to embrace the gratitude and peace that coexist with the memories. I studied the natural evolution of the soul connections opening up if we allowed ourselves to venture beyond the social roles and structures.
We both were lucky enough to find love again, building fulfilling lives with our incredible new partners. Yet, I still yearned for a deeper understanding of the past dynamics, a way to extract more wisdom from our shared painful experience. I was convinced that, had we possessed the tools, the awareness, to express and to navigate our emotional waters more skillfully back then, perhaps fewer thorns would have pierced our hearts. Perhaps our souls could have expanded so much more.
Over time, I realised that the pain we inflicted upon each other was a reflection of our own unhealed wounds and inner storms. And, if I was to build something completely different this time, I had to truly and in all honesty face my past relationships playground.
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With my new partner we decided to become the creative artists for our love project, investigators of all emotions, the writers rewriting the old stories. We were both determined to create a completely different narrative to all our past relationship experiences. From the very beginning we invested our time and effort in open communication, shared vulnerability, and a commitment to growth. Our relationship became a laboratory for exploring the intricacies of human connection. Challenges were met with honesty and a willingness to understand, fostering a deep sense of trust and security.
Reflecting on my past and present, I realised I was never meant for surface-level connections. I’ve always craved the depth, the intimacy where true love thrives. While some people shy away from uncomfortable conversations to keep the peace, I believe real love flourishes in honesty and openness. True love demands we face the hard truths together, for that’s where the real growth happens and this time I was determined to build it from scratch in the total transparency of my own emotions and desires. Sometimes discovering them for the first time myself.
Observing my process, I realised that, along this journey, I lacked a comprehensive, holistic roadmap to navigate relationship ideas at different stages but especially early on when the base of all future interactions and mutual understanding was laid. Not only when things start going awry but when we’re just embarking on this ship full of hopes with a new crew member. A framework that would allow couples to explore all aspects of their connection, from emotional and spiritual needs to shared dreams and fears. A framework that goes beyond surface-level issues, delving into the complexities of the human heart in an organised and exciting way.
I imagined a space where you could pause the noise of everyday life and truly connect with your partner, understand each other's worlds, and build a shared vision for the future. A place to confront your deepest fears, hopes, and dreams without judgement. A place for real venturers to reflect, and grow together; explore your vulnerabilities and shadows without fear, supported by knowledge and guidance. This Program was born from that vision.
It's a beacon for those seeking deeper connections, a roadmap for navigating the complexities of love as they come. It's for couples at crossroads, seeking clarity and direction. It's also for those embarking on new relationships, eager to build a strong foundation from the start.
I envision relationships that are not just functional but thriving in love that nourishes their souls and evolves with each passing year. My goal is to help create this comprehensive roadmap for deep connection, personal growth, and shared fulfilment. I believe that with the right tools and support, every couple can create a soul journey that is not only expansive (within and beyond the relationship) but simply extraordinary and unique in their own ways, cracking the code of their own hearts and destiny.
Join me on this journey of discovery, healing, and growth. Let's create a love story worth telling.
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This Program offers a comprehensive roadmap to deepen your connection, resolve conflicts, and create a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Through guided exercises, expert coaching, and a supportive community, you'll gain the tools to navigate life's challenges together and build a love that truly thrives.
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